what was I Thinking and emotional blackmail

Did I really believe that once Bill and I reached a settlement that he would go away, you know I did, it is done, over but not with him. Well I learned about emotional blackmail, were have I been all these years and no one ever mentioned that what he was doing was emotion blackmail. This has reallt been tough and depressing dealing with him always in the back of mind what will he do next. I am tired of his control over me. Worried over what he will do next. Well enough, it costs me but I have a lawyer now and I can only let him hurt me if I let him.